tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post7297748087948817791..comments2024-01-26T00:47:28.825-08:00Comments on Vintage Thirty: This Will Hurt Me More than it Hurts You...Or Will it?Tootsie Farklepantshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18336671002327112885noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-16322071155467864542010-03-22T09:54:19.678-07:002010-03-22T09:54:19.678-07:00I'm just getting caught up Google reader.
I d...I'm just getting caught up Google reader.<br /><br />I don't think it's just our job as parents to teach our kids right from wrong - it's also our responsibility to teach them sympathy and compassion.<br /><br />Sometimes the answer isn't black or white it's a shade of gray and you go with your gut. <br /><br />Children have plenty of opportunities to learn hard life lessons at the hands of others - he probably learned a lot more about kindness and understanding than you'll ever know.Nelson's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05419949223504292317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-19584006229502626912010-03-19T15:45:13.930-07:002010-03-19T15:45:13.930-07:00Yep, I would have done the same. I pretty much sti...Yep, I would have done the same. I pretty much stick to my guns, but my husband is all nicey, nicey. I'm the person who is out to destroy my kids lives or so they say. Really, I do have a heart, though.<br /><br />I just stumbled across your blog, love it!Diane J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06638568994448668008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-25238201939790579132010-03-16T15:35:49.199-07:002010-03-16T15:35:49.199-07:00Play. There will be enough hurting once his pal is...Play. There will be enough hurting once his pal is gone. And, time enough to have the rest of his consequences dealt to him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-62300145476557255752010-03-16T13:19:32.237-07:002010-03-16T13:19:32.237-07:00I would have let the kid play.
Plenty of other wa...I would have let the kid play.<br /><br />Plenty of other ways to teach the lesson.<br /><br />This was his last moments together. I am sad for him.Marcy of The Glamorous Lifehttp://marcywrites.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-90876954407376465742010-03-15T21:27:58.763-07:002010-03-15T21:27:58.763-07:00Thanks you guys! I'm in good company here. T...Thanks you guys! I'm in good company here. Today was rough for him since his friend wasn't at school and knowing that the house down the street stands empty...well...ya know.Tootsie Farklepantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18336671002327112885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-31669461748588955552010-03-15T20:33:18.089-07:002010-03-15T20:33:18.089-07:00I would have done the same thing! Anything else w...I would have done the same thing! Anything else would have just been cruel.Jason, as himselfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16630210317307544165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-69710804975225621912010-03-15T17:13:07.615-07:002010-03-15T17:13:07.615-07:00Ah, the grey areas. Parenthood is such a minefiel...Ah, the grey areas. Parenthood is such a minefield of grey areas. I would have done the same thing, sighed deeply, and then had myself some chocolate.Christie Zimmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08454290311647795507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-53751444386797842942010-03-15T16:09:54.944-07:002010-03-15T16:09:54.944-07:00I agree with everyone else, I would have let him p...I agree with everyone else, I would have let him play also. Suspend the grounding for that day, tack it on to the end (kind of like a snow day, huh?).barbrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09918903739834969992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-29753208938897485862010-03-15T12:24:03.789-07:002010-03-15T12:24:03.789-07:00I think you handled it just fine, it was a delicat...I think you handled it just fine, it was a delicate issue. Sorry your son's friend is moving out of state.Martha@A Sense of Humor is Essentialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07129428477996644401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-25264564992350338142010-03-15T12:01:19.391-07:002010-03-15T12:01:19.391-07:00I have done similar things but if I 'trade'...I have done similar things but if I 'trade' under certain circumstances then I increase the original punishment. <br /><br />"OK, you can play outside for one hour but you will be on restriction one additional day". <br /><br />This way they are not getting off and the decision is theirs.Stuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05513685850378958611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-55189142364923113532010-03-15T11:42:22.449-07:002010-03-15T11:42:22.449-07:00Exactly what you did.
The stick to your guns thin...Exactly what you did.<br /><br />The stick to your guns thing works only IF you have humanity and can be flexible.<br /><br />I have been known to offer grounding "trades." A once-in-a-lifetime opportunity arises when you're grounded? Then I'll trade you the one day/night for x number more days grounded, If it is important enough they will do it.Jenn @ Juggling Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14455967210924573398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-32852359878509975702010-03-15T11:25:05.728-07:002010-03-15T11:25:05.728-07:00I would have let them play. I'm a sucker and ...I would have let them play. I'm a sucker and groundings can always be extended.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10120774715331922926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-17986560517171128122010-03-15T09:58:27.850-07:002010-03-15T09:58:27.850-07:00I would not have had children, another guilt trip....I would not have had children, another guilt trip. I'll pass :)Bumpkin on a Swinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11849191596023545097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-50142850011985624332010-03-15T09:49:44.393-07:002010-03-15T09:49:44.393-07:00I'd have made that concession, too. (says the...I'd have made that concession, too. (says the girl who moved every 3-4 years whilst growing up).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-1217513464591751232010-03-15T09:43:30.630-07:002010-03-15T09:43:30.630-07:00Hey Tootsie -- I have another place that would lik...Hey Tootsie -- I have another place that would like to have you write for them (us). Can you send me an email at petri017@umn.edu<br /><br />That's zero one seven.<br /><br />Mary (MN Matron)Minnesota Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16565431067927240183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-45991399029236278602010-03-15T09:31:07.629-07:002010-03-15T09:31:07.629-07:00I probably would have said, "your punishment ...I probably would have said, "your punishment is still in effect, but right now you have a day pass"....it could be like a conjugal visit without the sex or sex-like behavior....like a bromance. The rest of the punishment could be carried out the following weekend. Of course, what the hell do I know? I'm not that big on making deals with my kids either. The first sign of weakness and its like a scene out of "Its Alive".tashilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07111495917404903773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-5826371029846645752010-03-15T07:45:02.012-07:002010-03-15T07:45:02.012-07:00I would have done exactly the same. And then MADE ...I would have done exactly the same. And then MADE HIM PAY. Bwah-ha-ha-ha! (evil laugh, reminiscent of castles with lightning flashes and rolling clouds).<br /><br />Actually. I would have done the same: explaining the special circumstances, but making clear that this was a VERY special time and such a concession will never. Happen. Again. Ever.WarsawMommyhttp://www.warsawmommy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7919889744528028610.post-51958331585365458322010-03-14T23:00:36.136-07:002010-03-14T23:00:36.136-07:00I would have let them play in.I would have let them play in.cactus petuniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16114194541917210679noreply@blogger.com